2. So about your girlfriend, what to do? Well here is where you and I have a difference: your girlfriend used to smoke and is willing to again. For your situation, something like this is not as out of the question/ordinary as it would be for me. Nonetheless, because my girlfriend appreciates the sex appeal of smoking, she had no problem pretending for me. Her brain went simply to the "oh I am doing for foreplay" and not "this is weird and goofy, how can someone like this?" It sounds like your girlfriend is just as understanding though since she offerred it for you. Any "goofy" feelings you would get are simply your personal inhibitions. I say drop them and enjoy the ride! It may take a while, but I imagine the more you guys talk about it and have fun with it, the more comfortable you'll get with yourself and it all. I'm still embarrassed about bringing it up with my girlfriend. Oh and don't forget she may have a wine drinking fetish with you. You never know........

3. For me, her pretending with real cigarettes did up the ante a bit. She will likely never smoke for me, but just the mental tease that now she could if she wanted to made it all the better. Plus it made the whole experience that much more real (before it was bubble gum cigarettes). Plus seeing a real cigarette box around makes it seem real too. You get the idea. Now, for me the turn on in particular is her holding the cigarette and bringing it up to her lips (the whole act of it). For me the smoke is bad (except for the fact that it would make it all the more real). Also it was in fact eas[ier] to imagine the real thing when she was pretending because she has always been a non-smoker. So ANYTHING is making it easier to imagine than it has been with nothing. For you, you had the real thing, so it's different. Still, she has only held a real one for me twice so far, and a bubblegum one about 6 times, and empty fingers about 6 times. I don't know how much experience I have to give advice from.