"And for another example, it would be extremely hard for me to handle enjoying women doing something harmful to their health if I did not take the same risk myself. I've noted over the years that this doesn't seem to bother most non-smoking fetishists in the least...."
Damn.We've never seen that comment posted anywhere prior to now. Not sure how the two things relate (i.e., feeling guilty about being secretive (or less than honest) with a mate versus feeling guilty about watching a woman smoke who freely chooses to do so).
So, if you smoke, that means you get a pass, right? But if you don't smoke and someone you never met smokes on camera and makes a few bucks on the side, that means you should feel guilty about watching it, right?
Amazing! That's wild to say the least.
We could see your point if a non-smoker (or even a smoker) was involved in somehow coercing another person to smoke (e.g., "Honey, since we're dating, you're going to start smoking so I can watch). Yeah, we could see your point on that one.
But for a non-smoker to feel a sense of guilt over the fact that a complete stranger happens to enjoy smoking and he/she gets to watch? Man, that's truly a stretch. Feeling guilt over something of that nature is reserved for people with self-persecution issues that are completely off the chart.
People who shoulder those kinda guilt trips really need to seek professional help. In the meantime ...
