There are several reasons I want to tell her, as opposed to looking at it from a "need to know" basis. In the middle of last year I experienced a life changing event, I fractured cervical 6 in a motor vehicle rollover. In the 6 hours it took for help to arrive (it happened in a very remote location) and the three weeks I spent in hospital recovering, I had a lot of time to think about how I had been living my life, and I concluded, among many other things, that to continue to hide important things about myself from my partner was not really a good way to live life.
I've had 4 major relationships in my life, and only one where I voluntarily disclosed my fetish. In another she found out when she looked through my msn chat history (it did not go well) and the other two I had constant worry about her finding out. I've found it difficult to develop emotional intimacy with someone when either I am hiding a very important part of my sexuality from them, or they do not accept it. Having made this mistake, I now want to rectify it.
I'm though with the hiding, and I'd like to give the development of emotional and physical intimacy the best go I possibly can. Life is too short and I'm hoping not to collect more regrets than I already have.
Take Care
PSF
