hi cfo there is another way, my wife wont smoke either and i have a big smoking fetish, i also met a woman who after playing around with fell in love with. I was considering leaving my wife of almost 20 years to be with this woman. I came clean with my wife and told her what i was missing and planning to do. we both cryed for about a week and saw counsoling. my wife is so wonderful that she saw my need and wanted to meet this other woman. after a lot of talking to this new woman i had such deep feelings for i convinsted her that everything was in the open and she need not feel scaird to meet my wife. after a couple of nervious moments they embraced each other in a hug. for the next two days they talked constantly about me and became good friends. now my wife and i visit her on a regular basis and we all are good friends. she even got my wife to smoke with her. i love them both and even though i can only have one of them in the bedroom I couldn't live with out either.
