I just discovered this website today and already I have a sighting story. The background: I'm a married female smoking fetishist (rare, I understand) trying to find out if I can incorporate my fetish into my sex life. I quit smoking 4 years ago (mainly because of my kids) and the only time I smoke these days is when away on business.

Speaking of being away, my husband and two kids were away visiting relatives this weekend, leaving me behind to do some work. It was a gorgeous day today, so on impulse I went to a neighbouring town and sat down at a pub with an outdoor patio. I spent the afternoon smoking and drinking. (The last time I'd had a cigarette before today was last November.)

At the table next to me were a husband and wife (about late 40s) and their adult son, who looked to be about 20. All were attractive and conversed with unusual ease, confidence and intelligence. The father and son didn't smoke, while the mother did. I found it fascinating and arousing to observe this family. Even though the men didn't smoke, they had clearly EMBRACED the woman's smoking. I had the sense that they weren't the type to give her tedious sermons. Her smoking was just a part of this family's life -- something to maneuver around, perhaps, but not to resist or berate.

To me, there's something uniquely erotic about couples in which just one partner smokes, especially if the other partner doesn't make a fuss about it. It's like the nonsmoking partner has to submit to the addiction in some way, if that makes any sense. Anyone else?