I estimate that during my dating years about one out of every five smoking women I went out with had the fetish in one form or another. It might not have been any more complicated than smoking sexy for me or just teasing me with their smoke. Others were more into overwhelming me with powerful smoke clouds.

Eventually they would figure out I too had the fetish. Sometimes this led to a great time and a steamy relationship. Sometimes if we liked everything else about each other it led to a wonderful long term affair.

The bottom line: If you get around enough and work at it enough you will find a person who fits your fetih desires, and you can have an otherwise normal relationship without guilt.