The first part of your statement "Although she doesn't have the fetish per se, my wife certainly understands how sexy her smoking can be" is accurate. I tell my wife that. Trips to the restaurant where I am a bartender offers scientific proof. My wife is not presently addicted to cigarettes but will come to my restautant for dinner and drinks with friends and fellow teachers who plan to smoke. They always turn them down but guys willing to buy drinks are abundant. If they go to dine and sit in non-smoking, guys aren't even scouting around. I estimate that at least 80 percent of the women who come in stag and leave with a guy smoked on the connection night. As far as the comment "even appreciates other attractive women smoking," I would say women notice that smoking women get the most men may be what you intended to say.